What does it mean to be loved if you do not love yourself first? Understanding what it means to love yourself and put yourself first is important. Many people feel resentment and guilt towards their loved ones because they have occupied themselves in the process of fulfilling another person’s needs without leaving any time for themselves e.g., the mother role or the breadwinner role, or the caregiver role and so on.
Some people even go as far as neglecting their needs, so they do not upset others or to keep the peace by not expressing what they need e.g., not asking the boss for a raise in income or not wanting to create conflict with a spouse or a child or just not being authentic. People pleasing behaviour is common in these instances and feelings of “if I don’t say yes then I run the risk of not being loved or being abandoned or losing my job”. Self-love always begs the question/s: “Am I putting myself first?“ and “Do I make time for myself?” or “Do I really want to do this?” or “Are my needs being met in this partnership?” and taking action to ensure that your needs and hearts desires are met.
Loveability (self-love)
Meaningless relationships or break-ups and divorce causes havoc for one or both parties involved and they may be left feeling unworthy of love, unhappy, depressed, anxious and alone. Internal conflict within the person may be present and this create a lot of confusion and even more distress around this issue.
The affected person may not have the energy, or mindset to handle their separation or divorce and may overlook; financial issues, the care of their children's emotions as they themselves are dealing with their own intense emotions, or they not able to go through with the divorce or separation.
More than ever a feeling that a loving, caring, warm and kind relationship is not available to them.
Understand your emotions and make sense of your reality and beliefs surrounding the relationship and its ending so that you can feel free to move forward and even stronger than before the divorce or break-up.
Break-ups, Separation, Divorce and needing to feel loveable again
Sexual issues may lead to disconnection between a couple and even resentment or guilt and fear of losing your significant other. Rewire and recode your mind for a satisfying sex life.
- Premature ejaculation
- Erectile dysfunction
- Poor self-image
- Past emotional and or sexual abuse
- Anorgasmia
Sexual issues for all genders
Disconnect, feelings of anger, blame, guilt and so on in relationships may cause your health to deteriorate.
- dis-ease
- aches and pains
- skin issues
- depression
- anxiety
- emotional numbness
- low level of functioning and poor quality of life
- weight gain/loss
- eating disorders
- irritable bowel syndrome
- inflammation
- insomnia
- and any other health issues
Tackle the emotional root cause of these health issues to see a change in your wellbeing.
Health issues affected by relationships
Addictions and bad habits may block a connection to yourself and others. Rid yourself of these addictions to live a better life by going straight to the root cause that lead to these actions.
- smoking
- alcoholism
- drug addiction
- shopping addiction
- nail biting
- screen time
- infidelity
Addictions and bad habits limiting connection and love
This can be very damaging for teenagers or young adults who have formed their identity around a certain partner or friend that has blindsided or ghosted them and left them feeling shame, not enough, disappointment, different and or no closure. If the person does not have a good sense of self, they may turn to habits that harm themselves or find themselves depressed and isolated.
Youth and Break-ups
Wire in, fire in beliefs of worth. Learn to be your own cheerleader and be resistant to rejection, imposter syndrome, toxic relationships, depression, and anxiety. Understand how to attract an abundance of love, connection, and heart desires in your life.
Acquire self-confidence, self-esteem, self-belief, self-worth for all genders
Emotional, physical, sexual and financial abuse strips away at the affected person's dignity. Leading to weight issues, and even illnesses. Feelings of anxiety, depression, self-blame, self-doubt, shame, fear, disrespected and loneliness are common and create a lot of mental and physical instability.
Rebuild your sense of self-worth, self-respect, self-love, and independence and gain strength and beliefs for a loving relationship.
Toxic/abusive relationship issues
Relationships run the risk of being dysfunctional and disconnected with certain health issues being prevalent.
- snoring
- insomnia
- depression
- anxiety
- stress
- fears
- phobias
- overweight/obesity/eating disorders
- irritable bowel syndrome
- diabetes
- infertility
- or any other health issues
Get to the root cause of these issues with RTT® so your health and relationships improve.
Health issues affecting relationships
Feelings of loneliness, socially awkward, feeling not enough, feeling different, a sense of not belonging and not loveable may prevail and the underlying problem may not always be obvious to the individual.
RTT® unblocks these thoughts and feelings that keep you from connecting to improve your relationship with yourself and others.
Social disconnection
Acquire balance, harmony, calm to avoid being triggered or stressed by financial strains. Obtain a good mindset around money and live in abundance. Optimise your work performance to be able to relax and enjoy your relationships. Perhaps it is time to evaluate your career. Feelings of stress, anxiety, overwhelmed, resentment and fear of change/uncertainty or not having enough money. Change these thoughts and feelings to live a life of abundance and calm.
Financial and work performance stress on relationships
Many people confuse love for something else and are deeply disappointed when things do not work out.
Understand what being in a loving relationship is and what is needed. Understand how to acquire the self-worth leading to attracting these partnerships.
Live a life full of love, support, connection and care.